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Are you a Nice Guy or a Good Man?
If that seems like an odd question, bear with me for a moment, because there is a distinct difference between the two.
A nice guy will tell a pretty lie to avoid the discomfort of telling an ugly truth. A good man will deliver the truth, however unpleasant, because his integrity will not let him deceive anyone for his own comfort.
A nice guy will do nice things with unspoken expectations attached. He will take a woman on a date, expecting to get something in return. A good man does things without expectation of a payoff, but because he is acting in accordance with his core values. Should he receive a return — it’s simply a bonus.
A nice guy is worried about his reputation, but a good man is only concerned with his character.
A nice guy fears rejection and so he seeks validation. A good man is self-validated and does not tie his worth to whether he is accepted or rejected.
A nice guy will cloak his intentions and be unclear, while a good man will be upfront with his intentions and be very clear about his aim. The good man leaves no space for ambiguity.
A nice guy will have loose boundaries and will bend over backwards just to seem nice. A good man has clear…
